I wish people would stop telling trauma victims, “God must have a plan for this. Otherwise He wouldn’t have allowed this to happen. He will work it out for your good”. How dare anyone suggest it is the will of God for someone to experience such trauma! This completely negates free-will, and suggests God could have stopped it somehow.
It is the same as saying this person had no choice but to abuse, rape or kill a person because God has a plan for it. We all have free-will. We CHOOSE to do good or evil with our free-will. A person who abuses, rapes, and murders people are CHOOSING to use their free-will to harm others. This is not a plan of God!
It was not a part of God’s plan for my life for me to be sexually abused! He did not plan it, He did not condone it, and God certainly could not stop it. IF God could control mankind’s free-will like that there would in fact be no such thing as free-will.
I do belive, God did everything He could to pierce my abuser’s conscious to get him to stop. My abuser’s heart is hardened toward God, and he placed himself outside the reach of God’s prompting to stop. This was my abuser’s free will CHOOSING to not only harm me, but to ignore the prompting of God on his conscious that what he was doing is wrong. I belive that my abuser’s heart is so hardened toward God that he probably didn’t even consider for a moment that what he was doing is wrong. He’s too narcissistic and self absorbed to ever consider his actions as wrong.
The only truth in the statement, “God will work everything out for your good” is that God CAN work ALL THINGS out for our good…if we would only let Him. God can take the trauma we’ve experienced, and, if we let Him, He can turn it all around to bring healing and peace back once again into our lives. He can create something new within us that is stronger and more beautiful than we would have ever thought possible. Out of the ashes of our trauma, like a phoenix rising from its ashes, He will rise up a new life for us free from the darkness of our past.